Monday, March 31, 2008
As for the weight, I'm starting to feel confident that I'll be in a size I'm more comfortable with by the time I'm ready to try on dresses (or most likely, have one made!).
I'm down 16lbs already. I know I have a long way to go, but I'm getting there day by day, and I'm happy with my progress.
I'll periodically update here.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Saturday, March 22, 2008
At first, I was really excited about it. Now, I just want to add it to the list of possibilities. Sometimes, I think I'd like something really cute and romantic. Other times, I think I'd like something fun(ny) that is reflective of us.
Possible Recessional Music:
Ingrid Michaelson - Take Me the Way I Am
Something from Star Wars
Farscape Theme Music
Something from the LoTR Soundtrack (also considering for processional, so much pretty music)
Medieval Babes (sp)
Super Mario Bros. Theme Song (I really like this one...heheheh - omg the processional could be the dungeon music...rofl - sorry, was taken away for a minute there...I'm back now)
I had a bunch of other possibilities in my head, but they flew away just a minute ago...
I actually joined an LJ community for wedding plans, so I've mostly been posting there and gathering inspiration from a lot of other lovely and creative brides.
J and I have an appointment on Thursday, April 3rd at 6:30 with our preffered venue, Inne of the Abingtons. I really hope we can swing the deposit this month to save our date...assuming we like them. It's funny, but unless I go there and hate the staff, I've pretty much decided on them already. We can hold our ceremony and reception there. The scenery is great. The prices are reasonable. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that all goes well.
I also spoke to a photographer whose work I like. I visited her website, Melissa Ann Portraits. She's just breaking into wedding photography. What drew me to her were A) Her nature photos (they are gorgeous) and B) her reasonable prices. She said if we book this year, she'll secure her rates for us for next year. Squeeeeeeee. I told her we'd be in touch after booking the venue. I think she can do what I want for our photos. We aren't into having a huge album full of pics of us getting ready, etc. What I really want are pics that will incorporate the autumn into our shots, not just use it as a backdrop. I have a feeling she can do that (but of course, we'll talk about it when we meet).
So yeah, that's that. I'm still dieting/trying to lose weight. My hair is finally starting to grow out. I might even be able to get a half decent ponytail in a month or two. lol.
Most of our family and friends know the engagement news. His poor mom still doesn't, but that's a long story. He or both of us will tell her soon, I'm sure. I don't think it's really going to matter to her one way or another anyway.
Monday, March 17, 2008
With these yummy treats that look as good as they taste!
Sunday, March 16, 2008
We have our first wedding appointment scheduled! We're visiting a possible venue on the evening of April 43rd. I was surprised to hear that they were nearly booked for 10/09 already. Fortunately, none of the Sundays are taken yet. Whew! The gentleman I spoke to said that regardless of where we book, we should do so soon, as dates are already filling up. I had no idea so many people were planning as far ahead as we are.
I'm a little bummed today. I had to take my ring back to have it sized. They said it's going to take a week to get it back! :( I was really looking forward to wearing it all the time once I got it. It'll be more comfortable and fit better though, so I suppose it's worth the wait!
Now that this is really and truly official, there are a few things I want to do within the next three to four months.
1) Book our venue.
Unfortunately, we probably won't be able to afford a deposit until late next month. *bites fingernails* I hope our date will still be available.
2) Dress shopping.
There is a problem with this, though...my weight! I am more motivated now than ever before to drop all this extra baggage. No, I don't want to be a size 6 bride, but I do want to be thinner. I'm still keeping up with my weight loss journal pretty regularly. I've lost 11lbs and have 39 more to go. I think once I've lost a total of 25 lbs (so 14 more to go), I'll start seriously looking for dresses. I think that'll be a substantial enough loss that I won't feel so bad when I put on a dress. Maybe it won't feel so much like a tent then!
3) Decide on stationery.
I've had a real problem finding stationery I like. From Save the Dates to Invitations, I just can't seem to find anything that really catches my eye. I've thought about going DIY with stationery, but I think that's a bit too complicated for me. I'm not great with printing/formatting stuff.
4) Talk to our potential officiant.
We'd like a mutual friend/acquaintance to perform our ceremony, but we aren't sure if he'll be comfortable with straying from tradition. I'm writing our ceremony (with input from J, of course), and it's important to me that we make it our own. So, I want to know if he'll be comfortable with it, or if we need to figure out another plan of action.
I know these aren't necessarily the 'proper' order of doing things, but since when is anything J and I do 'proper?' There are a lot of things I need to wait to do, either because it's too early or I simply need this autumn to roll around for reasonably priced supplies to become available. I'm very anxious to try my DIY boquets, but I've heard the flowers I want to use (mums) are more affordable in autumn.
I've put together a binder for wedding planning. I was going to buy one of the wedding planners I saw at Border's, but $30 and up seemed awfully expensive for something I could put together myself. I think what I might add to it is my own timeline/checklist. I've found a lot online, but I want to customize them.
Saturday, March 15, 2008
J finally proposed last night!!! Yay! I pretty much knew it was coming, but it doesn't make it any less exciting for me.
It turns out that he actually got me my second choice ring. At first, I was a teeny bit disappointed, but I'm so thrilled that it's official that I don't care anymore. I think this ring suits me well. In fact, it'll go really well with the channel set wedding band I want...they'll complement each other nicely!
Here's a pic!!!
We have to have it sized, though. It's a bit too small and uncomfortable on my finger. Unfortunately, it's going to take them a week to do it. :( So, we're going to drop it off tomorrow afternoon. I want to wear it tonight when the girls come over so I can tell them the good news!
Now all the ideas I've been posting about can come to fruition. I can actually plan, not just talk about planning!
Sunday, March 9, 2008
When I went to their website to find this pic, I also saw a wedding band that I really like...
I think it'll look stunning next to the engagement ring. I was thinking of using my grandmother's wedding band...until I saw this one!I haven't forgotten about J. We both like the black titanium one I showed him, but it's a bit more than we wanted to spend on the bands. Turns out the same ring is availble by Littman for half the price of the first one I saw! Yay!
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
I have an extremely close relationship with my Aunt. I have turned to her during many hard times. I love the relationship we've developed and the conversations we can have now that I'm "all growed up." Hehehe. She has been a positive guiding force in my life for a long time now. I am soooooo grateful for her. I honestly don't know if she is aware how important she is to me. I try to tell her, but I stumble over words when they're the "mushy" kind.
I will talk to her about almost anything. One thing I have not spoken to her about is my non-engagement. (I don't know what else to call it anymore) The subject is a difficult one for me and I tend to dance around it a lot, unless I'm blogging or freaking out to J.
We talked about it today, and she, as always, really helped me see things from a different perspective. It doesn't change the way I feel about the situation, but the understanding I've gained is helping me cope with it better. I think I have a clearer sense of where J is coming from, even if I don't like it.
I'm just so blessed to have her.
Yet, here I am, still typing away about all this!
I think that's going to be my biggest obstacle...the dress. The rest of it is "easy." I know what kind of wedding I want. I don't know what kind of dress I want anymore. Sure, I've posted pictures about dresses that I really like, but after having tried a few on, I feel lost. I have a few requirements for my dress, but an exact idea just isn't there. Also, my size and my hair make it difficult for me to get excited about it. I'm not happy about the way I look. How can I be happy about the way I'll look in a wedding dress. At least I can narrow down my choices...those few requirements I have should help when the time comes to shop. I even have some requirements about shoes and accessories. What are they, you ask?
The dress must be either champagne or gold. No ivory, as I've discovered that ivory is still too white for my personal taste.
I really really really don't know about this. I love the portrait necklines. I think they are so classic and pretty, but I also like strapless dresses. I know I don't want a high neckline or a sweetheart neckline.
I either want long sleeves (in the form of a jacket) or none at all...
Originally I thought it had to be an A-line. Now, I think I could do either an A-line or a ballgown, as long as the ballgown isn't too outrageously poofy!
No train! Or at least a very very short train that can be bustled easily.
Headpiece and veil:
NO VEILS WHATSOEVER!!! Can I make that any clearer? LOL
Headpiece should be a delicate tiara in a gold tone with offwhite pearls and maybe some colored beads.
Gold and inexpensive. I can't see spending a bunch of money on shoes that will hardly be noticed under my dress.
Slippers for reception dancing after all the formalities are finished.
Depending on my neckline, I may go with a simple necklace to match my tiara.
If I go sleeveless, I'd like to wear an antique bracelet that was my grandmother's. My cousin has the matching one. I might ask if that can be my "something borrowed."
I've decided already on a 1940s style. I have a picture of a New Year's Eve where I wore a "pageboy" style. My hair looked awesome that night! Hehehe. I might do that, or maybe one of the other popular styles from the time that sweep the hair back loosely.
I wish I had more artistic talents so I could sketch some dresses that I'd like!
So yeah, my point is that I have not backed off completely, just that sometimes I don't know what to say about it. Also, I'm glad I have a bit better idea about what I want from a dress.
I have more to write, but I'm going to do so in a different post because this one is long enough!
Sunday, March 2, 2008
It was this huge, thick, wide, heavy gold men's ring with 3 diamonds in a diagonal pattern across the face. I can't describe how awful it was. I just remember it being huge, and it weighed a ton.
I was still ridiculously excited, but I did manage to tell him I'd like us to look for a more petite ring, if possible. He said ok.
The whole thing was just strange.